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I recently discovered a great technique from Mo Gawdat on how to get into a state of happiness within 7 seconds.  I’ve been using it with clients with great results in my Distance Healing Sessions.

Before I tell you the technique, I will define happiness and unhappiness.

Happiness occurs when life meets or beats your expectations of an experience or event. 

For example, is you go out for dinner and the meal you have is as good as you expected it to be or better.

Whereas Unhappiness occurs when an experience or event doesn’t meet your expectations. 

An example of unhappiness: you go out for dinner and the meal is worse that you expected.

The common denominator with happiness and unhappiness are thoughts.

80% of unhappiness is due to negative thoughts.

Consider when you feel unhappy as a survival mechanism and a signal to take specific actions if you want to return to happiness. 

The first thing to do is acknowledge you feel unhappy. 

The second thing is: What is the trigger? 

If it’s a situation in the world like a flood or war on the other side of the world.  Has your life changed at all from it?

If not, can you accept it?  And can you do anything about it? 

Ask yourself the questions: “What can I do about it, how can I make the world a better place from this situation that triggered my unhappiness or how can I become stronger from the situation?” 

These questions take you out the of emotional and stressful thoughts (feeling helpless/hopeless) into acceptance and or action thoughts.

When you discover the trigger of your unhappiness, ask yourself whether the thought is true or false? 

I work with many people that suffer from depression and anxiety.  Many of their feelings are the result of believing a lie that was either told to them when they were young, or they told themselves from a negative experience they had.

Have you ever been bullied by someone that resulted in you not feeling good about yourself and unloved.

If you continued to tell yourself the lie that you are not good enough and unloved it results in feeling more stressed and symptoms of chronic stress.

Chronic Stress Symptoms

• Easily triggered
• Emotional withdrawal
• Suppressing yourself
• Fearful of expressing yourself
• Shame
• Guilt
• Decreased immunity
• Chest tightness
• Trouble letting go
• Low energy
• Sleeping problems and insomnia
• Unfocused and cloudy thinking
• Changes in appetite
• Aches and pains
• Increase in alcohol and drug use

Diseases associated with chronic stress are linked to other conditions, both psychological and physical. These include:

• Hypertension, heart disease, obesity and metabolic syndrome, Type II diabetes, and arthritis
• Addiction to alcohol, nicotine and/or prescription drugs, and behavioral-related such as addiction to the internet, food, or gambling
• Mood disorders and anxiety disorders, which are common secondary diagnoses for people with chronic stress.

Hypertension, depression, addiction, and anxiety disorders are the conditions most related to chronic stress.

If you can relate to living in chronic stress, take the following steps to overcome it.

• Acknowledge your unhappy (negative feelings).
• Write out the thoughts you have that trigger your stress. 
• Ask yourself are the thoughts true or false?  (FYI: all thoughts of not being good enough and unlovable are a lie.) If they are false let them go by taking 10 deep breaths. Close your eyes, focus on the center of your chest, and say to yourself, “I release any lies that I tell myself that are not serving me in my highest and greatest good.”  Notice how you feel when you say this.  

By saying this prayer, you are giving your soul and God permission to cleanse the lies from you. 

• If it is True.  Ask yourself, “What can I do to fix it?”

This moves you into the problem-solving part of your brain and helps make you and the world a better place.

• If you can’t do anything about it and things can’t change.  Like someone dying in a car accident or stuck in traffic.  Ask yourself, “Can I accept the situation or experience and make my life better despite the problem."

Make sure that you go to happy and useful thoughts. 

If your thoughts aren’t useful, tell your brain not to give you thoughts that aren’t helpful. 

On average it takes 21 days to remove negativity and change the brain.  So be patient and persistent.

By investing 5-10mins into improving your mindset every day and how you interpret stress you will spend much more time feeling happy than you ever had before.

If you find that you need additional help overcoming chronic stress, I will gladly help you via Distance Healing Sessions.

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What would your life look like if you had more energy each day?

Here's a list of things that more energy does:

• You feel better
• You can adapt to stress easier
• It's easier to problem solve
• You're a better communicator
• You have a stronger memory
• Improved balance and coordination 
• You heal faster

What is something you notice when you have more energy?  Comment below.

4 Things that Help Increase Energy

• Get natural light exposure into your eyes 30-60mins after waking to increase morning cortisol. 
• Do light exercise like go for a walk, stretching, and or Qi Gong to warm up your core temperature.
• Delay caffeine intake 90-120mins after waking to avoid an afternoon crash.
• Do a morning meditation where you connect with God, Jesus and or the Holy Spirit and focus on at least 3 things you are grateful for to summon with a positive mindset. 

What is something you do to increase your energy? Comment below.

Have you ever felt stressed during traffic jam, gotten upset to the point of wanting to yell.  

This happens because your nervous system is conditioned to react stressfully in that situation. 

But what if you could respond differently.  Rather than freakout, take some deep breaths and realize “I’m a traffic jam, how can I make the best use of my time right now?”

By doing this you avoid excess stress and emotional pain, along with wasting energy on being unproductive.   In turn you make better use of your time and create more healthy energy for yourself.

Some things you can to are  call a friend, listen to a podcast or good music, tell yourself, “I love myself unconditionally,” or remind yourself how grateful you are to have a car. These are just a few examples.  There are a number of things you can do to increase your wellness during that time….

What is something you would do?

How do you Regulate the Nervous System?

• Practice

What are your stress triggers?

Take a moment and write them down.

Examples of Stress Triggers:

• Weather
• Politics
• Family members
• Loud noises
• Violence
• Certain smells
• Your work/job
• Travel
• The unknown
• Meeting new people
• Your health
• Money

How to Heal Stress Triggers

• Go to calm relaxing space like a quiet room or out in nature. 
• Take 10 deep breaths
• Get into a calm state of mind
• Close your eyes and visualize being in the situation that normally triggers you, but instead being calm and peaceful in it.
• See yourself handling the situation with ease. 

Example: see yourself having a positive interaction with the family member that normally stresses you out.  See yourself being present with them and listening to them.  See yourself articulating your thoughts and feelings in a calm manner to them. 

Practice doing this until you feel peaceful about the situation that used to stress you out. 

Don’t be surprised how good you feel in that situation next time you are in it. 

Do you suffer from sleeping problems like insomnia?  You definitely want to hear this.

The number one cause of insomnia is stress.  However, it’s not always clear as to what is causing the stress.

I’m going to help you figure that out.  Along with what you can do to overcome the stress so you can sleep better at night and have more energy during the day. 

The top things you need to do to sleep better are:

• Remove electronic devices, such as TVs, computers, and smart phones, from your bedroom.
• Avoiding large meals, caffeine, and alcohol before bedtime.  No food 3hrs before bed and no caffeine 8hrs before bed because it can take up to 8hr to clear out of your body.   If you rely on caffeine for energy and can’t function without it comment before. 
• Get some exercise. Being physically active during the day can help you fall asleep more easily at night.
• Using room-darkening shades, earplugs, a fan, or other devices to create an environment that suits your needs.
• Do calming activities before bedtime, such as taking a bath or using relaxation techniques can promote better sleep.
• Spend time outside in natural sunlight during the day has been shown to improve sleep.

All the info you just read is all available through a quick Google search, however I find many people don’t want to make the changes necessary to improve their sleep. 

Here’s why…..

Food, caffeine, alcohol, and entertainment are providing the person with a feeling of pleasure. 

Are you someone that struggles with changing your lifestyle habits, even though you know they aren’t good for you and have a negative impact on your sleep?

#1 reason that stops a person that knows better is negative feelings about oneself.

Pray every day – Connect with Jesus Christ/God and ask for the strength and power to overcome your negative feelings.

Example of a prayer is: “Thank you Jesus for providing me the strength and energy to overcome the negative feelings I have about myself.”

Pray first thing in the morning and before bed for strongest impact. 

Next, connect with those negative feelings.  Ask yourself, why do I have these feelings? 

It’s important to be aware of why they are there, so you can deal with them accordingly. 

For example, if you have negative feelings about yourself due to feelings of guilt.  It’s important to forgive yourself for your past mistakes or failures.  If you need help forgiving yourself, ask Jesus for support.

Prayer: Thank you Jesus for giving me the strength to forgive myself for my past mistakes and failures. 

These types of prayer help you to surrender, so you can let go of the emotional pain limiting your life, stressing you out affecting yourself.

If negative feelings are not responsible for your struggles with stopping habits that keep you await at night. 

Ask yourself, “What feeling do I want more of.”  Often it is something very simple like comfort, joy, love or calmness. 

Use similar prayers as above to fill your soul with what you need to feel full.

Example of prayer: Thank you Jesus/God for giving me to strength to experience more calmness in my life. 

Find the prayers that work well for you and spend a few minutes doing them every day.  Overtime you will feel more enriched.

If you would like more help getting over your sleeping troubles I can help you through my Distance Healing Sessions. 

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“The opportunity needs to be bigger than your fear.”

Have you ever wanted to do something to improve your health, but FEAR arose and stopped you from acting?

You’re not alone.

Fear is one of the top five reasons why people don’t act.  Why people procrastinate and why people give up on their goals and dreams. 

Fear shows up when we think about and step into the unknown; something new that we’ve never done before. 

It doesn’t necessarily mean that it’s bad fear.  It’s just the body's response to something new because we all have a set point in our lives, i.e., our comfort zone. 

However, we can get addicted to the emotional response we get from our comfort zone even if parts of that comfort zone are unhealthy.

We’ve all been there in some way or maybe you are there right now.

I used to be addicted drinking alcohol.  I began drinking to help feel more relaxed in a social setting, but soon it became something I would reach for at the end of my day. 

It was something I leaned on to help me unwind. Without it, I felt more stressed, slight brain fog, and less energy.  This is because my body was constantly processing the toxins produced by alcohol.   

As time went on I found that I was developing more toxicity symptoms and it was having a negative impact on my health. 

It was very hard to stop because I feared that I wouldn't be able to socialize as well.  This of course was something I had made up in my head and was my way of trying to fool myself into continuing to drink.

It took me deciding that my health, life, and work were far more important than potentially feeling awkward socially.   

Strong WHY is Essential for OVERCOMING FEAR

Every single person who overcomes adversity or conquers a fear has a WHY – a reason that motivates them to act in the first place.

The thing is, you have more control than you think you do when it comes to finding reasons that motivate you to push past your fear.

You may not have the willpower or the drive to decide to overcome your fear, but you can intentionally seek out inspiration, accountability, and better opportunities to achieve your goal.

If you have trouble connecting with your WHY or finding the motivation to follow through, it can be helpful to start by putting some safeguards in place.

6 Principles of Safeguarding

1. Empowerment – Find mentors, books, information that empower you to achieve your health goals.  Example, visual every morning each that you’ve accomplished your health goal.

2. Prevention – Research and do the things that help prevent poor health.  This includes eating well, regular exercise, meditation and destressing activities like Qi Gong, Yoga, etc.

3. Protection – avoid things that drain your energy like negative thinking, focusing on things that you don’t have any control over, spending time with negative people, watching and listening to the news. 

4. Proportionality – You are a unique individual.  Therefore, your needs, desires, and situation is different from everyone else’s.  Rather than comparing yourself to others, focus on making small improvements every day towards your health goal.

5. Partnerships – Seek out support for achieving your health goals.  You don’t have to do it alone.  Know that God (Divine, Universe, etc.) supports you.  So, thank God every day for that support.  Also reach out and connect with other for support via in person, by phone and or online.   

6. Accountability – Hold yourself accountable to your health goals by reminding yourself WHY you are doing it every day.  Attach a big purpose to it.  Like when you achieve your health goal you will go on a trip to somewhere you’ve always wanted to go.  Or do it so you can be more present with your family. 

Whatever it is it should be something that excites you. 

Another part about accountability is ask a friend or family member to check in with you daily/weekly to hold you accountable. 

To achieve your health goals (any goal actually) you must change who you are.  You must become someone different, someone better than who you currently are.

Comment below if fear gets in the way of you achieving your health goals or other important goals? 

Have you ever worried about getting together with family over the holidays because one or more members has a tendency to make you feel uncomfortable?  And do you wish these people could just be nicer and more compassionate? 

Me too.  I used to struggle with judging people before getting together due to some stressful interactions in the past.  As a result, this made me even more stressed and worried something bad might happen again. 

That all changed years ago when I discovered a simple Energy Healing Technique that helped me let go of old pain and heal those relationships.

Watch Video to discover how to Heal your Relationships

Becoming clear on the things in your lives that are driving your body towards negative stress and less joy is huge for healing.

You may know right away what your top stressors are. However, if you don't, you may have gotten used to living on auto-pilot and may not even recognize that you have any stress at all.

Getting in touch with what is creating negative stress and less joy is crucial for your healing so that you can consciously choose to change it.

Below is a guided intuitive meditation.  I suggest getting quiet with yourself to ask your body what your biggest stressors are and what you can do to bring more ease, peace and joy into these areas of your life. Or, if you need to let these stressors go, what is blocking you from doing so?

Questions to Ask Yourself

• What areas of my life are holding stress for me? 
• What can I do to bring more peace and ease to these stressful areas of my life?
• Do I need to let them go?
• Do I need to do something different?
• What is my body asking for in these situations or stressful areas?
• What area of my body am I holding this stress?
• How do I release these stressors from the tissues, organs of my body?

Join me in this Guided Healing Meditation to Connect with your Heart. 

In this guided meditation I take in on an intuitive journey to see what lies within your heart.   

I use this meditation when I need answers about making important decisions and to bring in new information into my consciousness to support positive change.    

So, if there are questions you need answers to, relationships you need healing with, set aside 24mins to connect with your heart.

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Can Self-Love actually be enough to power intentional healing of the body?  

Most people think that love requires other people, but even self-love has the power to move mountains. Love really does have the power to heal us from the inside out. In fact, love has been proven to heal wounds at rapid paces. 

So, what exactly is Self-Love??? 

How can we know if we are truly loving ourselves unconditionally? 

This has taken me a lot of thought. 

When I was hard on myself and especially my body, my body internalized that self-judgement with chronic body wide pain. 

My body ached and burned for me to pay attention to it and love it just the way it was. It took me a lot of time to learn how to love myself. I think I am still mastering it and it may end up being my personal soul work in this life. 

Self-love has taught me that I am loving to myself when….. 

• I take the time to slow down in my life. When I allow for more flow and ease and give up the stress of trying to control situations. 
• Self-love to me has been the ability to look inward and ask myself questions while listening for my soul's answers. Listening to my intuition, my soul’s whispers have been my greatest ally. 
• Self-love has been revelling in the perfection that I truly am. Perfect right now. Every body part, every thought, every curve, every pound.
• Self-love is trusting my instincts and saying no when I need to rest or relax. This has not been easy for me. As an empath, I want to heal the world. Saying no has been an art for me. 
• Self-love has been about being kind and patient with myself and really accepting myself as a perfect creation of god/creator/spirit. 
• Self-love is about letting go of my judgements towards myself. I have learned that I am my worst critic. Quieting my inner critic with love and respect has been a vital part of my daily practice. It is sort of like brain gym for my negative Nancy. Correcting her behaviour when I notice her coming to visit. 
• Self-love is embracing my sensitivity. I tend to be a little emotional at times and can easily cry. Embracing this sensitivity has been so freeing for me. I have learned that showing my emotions in all situations has deepened my relationships with people and myself. 
• Self-love has been letting go of my past mistakes and forgiving myself. Thanking my soul for the knowledge and learning that came with it. After all, my biggest challenges have been my greatest teacher.  
• Self-love has been honouring my truth even when it is hard. Even when others disagree. I am still working on this one.  
• Self-love is about letting go of relationships and things that no longer align with my highest and best interest. 

It has also been about taking myself on dates, buying myself flowers and being my very best friend. It is about knowing that I deserve the best and giving myself permission to give that best to myself. I love to treat myself to the very best when I can. 

We can also lean into loving our partners/spouses/friends and even animal companions more. Making time for hugs and cuddles. Love of all kinds releases lovely hormones like dopamine and oxytocin. They relax the stress response and really make the body ripe for miracles. 

When we feel a lack of self-love, love and connection, we are more susceptible to imbalances in the body. Our bodies are so wise. The body shifts as our frequencies shift.

When we are out of cinq with love we can be more susceptible to...

• Chronic inflammation
• Immune system imbalances
• Elevated blood pressure
• Increased cortisol levels
• Pain
• Fatigue
• Depression
• Anxiety
• Increased reactivity to stress

This is really because lack of love can activate our stress response. 

When we feel love in our hearts we….

• Have more flexibility
• Immune systems are balanced
• Pain is less
• Your Heart beats stronger
• Hormones are better balanced
• Feel happy 
• Sleep deeper
• Blood sugars are more stable. 
• Exercise more, and our blood chemistry physically changes

SELF LOVE 

For me, it has been about learning to say no, taking time for myself and really turning my attention to self-care. 

Self-love has been about being kind to myself and loving every curve and dimple on my body. It has been about being my biggest fan, and my very best friend. 

It has been about being patient with myself and knowing that there is a great timing for everything. 

It has also been about self-forgiveness and even permission to let out the parts of myself that are not all that pretty. 

Self-love has been my greatest healing journey. 

Do you practice self-love? 

I would love to hear about it.  Leave your comments below.

Keri Fulmore
Medical Intuitive & Functional Medicine Practitioner