As a child and teenager, I suffered from severe irritability. I felt like a ticking time bomb ready to go off if someone said or did something to trigger me. It was rare if I didn’t wake up irritated and frustrated.
But these intense feelings I felt were the result of what was going on inside of me, creating perpetual stress.
On an unconscious level I was attached to anger, frustration, fear and sadness to many people without realizing it.
This was because at different points in my past I felt these people had hurt me through their words and actions.
Though it was me that was still holding onto those painful experiences, because I didn’t know how to process them.
Those experiences were kind of like undigested food rotting in my stomach, creating all kinds of different problems.
Those unprocessed negative experiences were telling my central nervous system (CNS) on an unconscious level to be in a state of fight or flight all the time, causing me to feel terrible.
This made it very hard for me to relax and feel comfortable with myself and others.
Physically, this affected my sleep, digestion and caused my body to feel tense and tight all the time.
At the time, I had no idea that I was still being affected from past experiences until I did this….
Quieted my mind and listened through meditation.
When I first began meditating at age 20yrs old, I had a flood of negative feelings, thoughts and images arise to my consciousness. It was quite scary and intimidating at first.
But, I quickly learned anEXERCISE(listen to it below)that was centred around focusing on loving myself and other people.
This powerful exercise helped me process the painful experiences, so I could finally overcome the pain they were causing me.
It helped me to realize that I needed to forgive the people that hurt me and send love to them (including myself).
All the negative feelings I was creating on a day to day basis were creating so much tension in my body that they were continually creating a toxic state for myself.
As a result the physical, mental and emotional symptoms quickly resolved.
Clearing the stress in my mind also enhanced my intuition because it was no longer being blocked by stress and negativity.
When I decided to stop and observe, rather than reacted to every thought and feeling I experienced, it allowed me to create change.
Looking back at it now I find it amazing how simple it was to process the old emotional pain when I decided to let love in and let go.
If you are anything like I was, the following Loving Kindness Exercise may be one of the most important things you do for your healing and moving forward with your life.
Greatness doesn’t happen overnight, it’s created through regular consistent investment of your time and energy.
You’re already putting your energy into things, why not direct your time and energy into things that help you to thrive.
Below I share 5 things I have been doing to help me increase my health and happiness and I know you will benefit from them too!
5 Things to Make 2019 Great
1. Exercise for 1hr daily.
If you want to take your health to the next level exercise is the way to do it. I have been working out, lifting weights and swimming 3-4 days per week for 2 months. In that short amount of time I have built up more muscle mass, am physically stronger, improved my endurance and energy level, feel less stressed, and haven’t gotten a sick (in the most notorious time of year to get sick).
On top of all that, I walk 1-2 hrs per day with my dogs.
There are so many benefits to exercise like:
Stronger lungs = more oxygen to your muscles and brain = more energy.
Protection from flus and colds. Exercise increases immunoglobulins, which are proteins that help bolster your immune system and ward off infection.
Mental calmness - Mood-enhancing chemicals, like serotonin, dopamine, and norepinephrine, flood your brain for a couple of hours post-exercise and for up to a day if you've competed in an endurance event, like a marathon. Stress? What stress?
Healthy weight - You're blasting calories, even at rest. "For every 100 calories you burn during your workout, you can expect to burn 15 calories after," Example, If you went on a three-mile run, you would torch about 300 calories, which could mean zapping an extra 45 later.
Healthy Heart – After every sweat session you lower your blood pressure for up to 16hrs.
Risk of diabetes goes down - The more you work out, the greater your sensitivity to insulin. That, in turn, lowers your blood sugar levels, reducing your risk of type 2 diabetes.
Physically stronger – regular exercise strengthens your muscles, bones and organs, helping to prevent weakness as you age.
Anti-aging – Fitness buffs have more telomeres. The DNA that bookends our chromosomes and protects them from damage, which can slow the aging process, studies show.
Melt away fat – After 4 weeks of regular exercise, your body ditches flab and gains muscle. Overweight people who took part in a four-week program of moderate aerobic exercise in an Australian study reduced ab fat by 12%. Wow, that’s fantastic!
2. Love yourself every day!
I have been focusing on loving myself unconditionally for the last 6yrs.
The benefits I have gained from this are:
Attracted more friends into my life
Developed healthier relationship with family and friends.
Heal faster physically
Feel more optimistic about life.
The trick to loving yourself is to tell yourself, “I love myself unconditionally,” and allow yourself to feel the how you react to that statement.
Allow yourself to fully embrace the feelings created by loving yourself unconditionally.
The next thing, I recommend you do is ask yourself, “What do I want to do today that will help me love myself even more?”
Ask yourself this question in a quiet & calm place and listen to the answer your body gives back to you.
3. Set a goal of something you really want to do for yourself?
This could be a trip, get into better shape and health, learn a new skill or make a new friend.
This is not limited to one goal, set as many as you would like, but remember to take action to make them happen.
4. Go somewhere you have never been before.
This helps you get out of routine, your comfort zone and realize there’s more to life than what is going on in your world.
I know when I go somewhere I haven’t been before I experience a lot of unexpected happiness. This is due to growing and learning new things, which stimulates serotonin production.
5. Meditate on a daily basis.
Meditation is amazing at showing you where you could be limiting yourself. Limits create stagnation and stagnation is the root of all imbalances: mental, emotional, spiritual and physical.
Therefore, by meditating you have the ability to make the unconscious conscious and see how you are affecting yourself and make the changes needed to live a fulfilling life.
To help align with the happier and healthier version of yourself I have created the Meditation Removing Restrictions for you.
Do you feel out of balance, unhappy, sad or depressed? Or even worse are you struggling with a chronic health problem?
Do you ever wonder how you got this way?
Well, let me tell you how I see these problems manifest....
They are the result of being out of touch or alignment with who you truly are. Regular reinforcement of being fearful of not trusting your gut feelings, desires and passions have created a life that you don’t like.
This is because you haven’t developed yourself in the way that you want to be. Instead you are acting like someone other than your natural self. You are an accumulation of stress, insecurities, resistance, etc. resulting in your current state of being.
Why would you ever do something like that?
Actually, it’s extremely common due to the society we live in, and the other reason for it is a lack of being taught how to get in touch with who you are.
Think about it from day one of your birth you are born into a world where people all around you are working a job that they don’t like, think they must dress a certain way because they saw it on a magazine, tv or the internet. So, you are being bombarded with people and their feelings and attitudes of being unhappy with not being themselves.
But, the biggest influence on you is your parents, siblings or whoever you grow up around. Everything they say you take as truth and very rarely are you taught to think for yourself and choose what you want to do. Instead you were forced to be like someone else, to fit in to prevent them from feeling embarrassed and to do things you really didn’t want to do or have no interest in. Many times, what ends up happening is, people just think that this is the way life is and give up on their hopes and dreams.
No wonder it is so easy to get out of alignment with who you are.
But, listen it’s not too late, you still have a chance to get in touch with who you are and your needs.
Reconnect With Yourself
To do this you must be willing to put total trust in yourself…. Are you ready to do that?
Some people aren’t because of old hang ups in their mind that interfere with trusting themselves.
If you are one of these people, here are some important questions to ask yourself:
Am I willing to trust myself? Yes or No
Am I willing to learn how to trust myself? Yes or No
Can I move forward from this point in my life? Yes or No
To get a Yes or No answer from these questions, close your eyes and ask each question. Make a note of the answers you receive. You may receive the word Yes or No, or you may get a feeling for your answer. A Yes feeling is calming while a No answer is tensing.
If you received a No to any of these questions you will likely require assistance to remove what is inhibiting you from moving into a place of trusting yourself. This can be a variety of things, such as insecurities, which were made up at some point in your life, but through reinforcing them, they have grown and now hold a lot of power over you.
Your blockages to trusting yourself can be resolved in one on one Sessions with me.
If you received Yes to the questions then, you can move forward with trusting yourself.
The next step into trusting yourself is asking yourself, “what do I need to do to achieve… name a specific goal you have.” It may be overcoming an illness, relationship issue, financial issue, etc.
It is best to close your eye when you ask this question and be somewhere quiet and peaceful. Have a pen and paper handy, so you can write notes. There may be several steps you need to take to achieve your goal. Make sure to ask yourself if there are steps you need to take.
There you go. Now it is up to you to follow the answer you received.
When you follow the answers, you received, it helps to solidify that you do trust yourself and the process then gets easier and more comfortable every time you do it.
Leave a comment below about your experiencing in trusting yourself or any challenges you may have with trusting yourself.
If you feel stuck in this area and would like help, we can work one on one to overcome your challenges that are inhibiting you.
Adam: Its so true. I honestly believe if I set my mind to being healthy and allowing for me to heal myself it will happen. I let fear take over me. Which is not good. I have emotional issues which have blocked my healing. I must overcome all fears.
The Most Important Thing I Did To Facilitate My Healing!
Tuesday, March 14, 2017
One of the things that came up for me on my journey to wellness was a lot of fear in trusting new things.
Would this new treatment make me better or worse?
Could I handle the changes if they were not favourable?
Did this person really know what they were doing to treat me properly?
What I didn’t realize was this way of thinking was the wrong approach entirely. I was living in fight or flight. I was living in a fear-based mindset. I expected the worst, so I would not have the rug pulled out from under me.
With every new treatment I had oodles of hope, but deep down I was scared of the outcome. At a core level I didn’t think it would work.
This way of thinking never brought me the right therapies or the right environment for healing. All it brought me was more fear, more pain and even more of what I didn’t want in my life…. STRESS!
Did you know that this type of negative thinking, also called ‘worse case scenario thinking’ is seen and felt as stress to the body?
Stress is not something you want to be dancing with on a daily basis. Chronic stress will NEVER open you up to Health and Healing. It actually creates the opposite effect.
It took me a long time to realize that I was blocking my own healing by the way I was thinking.
I was causing myself stress!
Stress and Healing
The funny thing about stress is that people often do not even realize that they are stressed!
I was happy with my career, my family life, my marriage, my life seemed flawless at the time!
So, if someone asked me if I was stressed, I would have said no. I loved my life.
I had no idea that my own thoughts, my innermost darkest thoughts, that played around in my mind day after day could be causing so much turmoil for my body.
I was a ‘worst-case scenario thinker.’
Even worse than that, I was hard on myself. I didn’t except myself for what I was. I didn’t love every inch of myself. Instead, I judged myself everyday.
When constantly thinking that the other shoe is going to drop, or wishing for something better than what's there, it causes a huge amount of stress to the body.
I found that De-Stressing and checking in with myself everyday was paramount for my healing.
4 Simple De-stressing Techniques for Self-Healing.
1. Check Your Thoughts – If you are prone to worry and fortune telling about the outcome of your health and future, there are simple techniques. I found that when I had a fearful thought or worry, I stopped and asked myself, "I am 100 percent sure that what I am thinking is true?"
If the answer is "no," I let it go. Unless you are sure of the outcome, don’t give it energy. I have also found that asking myself, “Will this matter tomorrow?” Is just as important.
If what you are worrying about will not matter tomorrow, what is the point about stressing about it? Be sure that what you are giving your energy to is worth it!
2. Meditate and Deep Breathing – Meditation and inner reflection is really important for self-healing. Your body has all of the answers that you need when it comes to healing. Taking the time to get quiet with yourself to ask your body why you are having a certain problem is important. With practice you will hear your inner voice and it will 'no doubt' guide you to healing. So don’t forget to ask!
Deep Breathing is just as important A deep breathe lets your body know that you are relaxed and there's nothing to worry about. It also engages your parasympathetic healing response. This is the opposite of your stress response. Because stress is the number one cause of most health issues, deep breathing is essential.
3. Positive Reinforcement – It does a body no good to think judgemental or hurtful thoughts towards one’s self. It is important to stop negative self -sabotaging thoughts in their tracks and reinforce it with a positive statement. This tells your brain that you are not stressed and everything is ok.
4. Do Something Joyful – Most people can get really caught up in their health issues. It can bring about melancholy, depression and even anger. It is important to counter act those feelings with joy.
Did you know that laughter heals? Or that a smile, even if faked can release feel good hormones in your body. Feel good hormones are what you need to heal. Watch a comedy, do laughter yoga, smell some flowers, call a good friend, or simply think about something that brought you joy (really visualize it).
These are just a few techniques to get your started. Doing them on a daily basis will help to increase your vibration, keep your body out of stress, and keep your moods positive. It can even heal. When your vibrating at a higher frequency, you attract all that you need to be well.
Keri: I really enjoyed your blog. I am at the same point you were when you started not feeling well. in how your mind can drive you wits end. I get really worried to a point where I cant sleep. Thank you very much you are inspiration to me.
Have you ever wondered if SELF HEALING was possible for YOU?
Perhaps you have read stories of miraculous healings in other people.
I too wondered the same thing when my life turned upside down. I was doing great. I was eating all the right foods, exercising, loving my children, had a loving husband, but I learned that wasn't enough.
One day suddenly out of nowhere I found myself in the 'dark night of the soul', or a very tomultuous health storm. I was crippled with head to toe pain, burning, shaking, tremors and crippled posture. I could barely get out of bed, let alone take care of my kids. Doctor's told me I was normal and there was nothing wrong with me. I had lost all hope.
I didn't believe healing could happen to me, that is until I decided to take my power back. Until I decided to take healing into my own hands.
Find out what I did to heal my body in video below...... and what you can do to!
You are more powerful than you could ever imagine and if I can do it, so can you!
How do you love yourself for what you are when you are so deformed by medical treatment that your face is half missing and you look really scary. People turn away and cant look at you. I know I am a good and great person on the inside but not on the outside. it impacts on every area of life and I cant love it no matter how I try.
February 28, 2017 at 5:45 PM
Thanks for sharing, this email arrived at the right time. I need to share this with a friend which is suffering from a myriad of health issues.
Don’t let negative emotions stop you from healing.
Did you know that negative emotions like anger, fear and hatred work against you if you are trying to heal?
They stop you from healing because they inhibit you from feeling love and LOVE HEALS.
Dr. Bernie Siegel explains the connection between love and health by saying that when you do not love your life your body suffers. It’s the ‘good girl’ who gets breast cancer. She’s the one who takes care of others needs and desires at the expense of her own.
The 'good girl' may see love as conforming. Of course, there are times that conforming is in your best interest. But conforming for love's sake stifles creativity and makes it impossible to live an authentic life. This creates stress and chronic stress leads to illness.
People often feel this stress on Monday - the most common day for suicide, heart attacks and illness.
Dean Shrock, PhD, author of “Why Love Heals” discovered scientific proof that love heals. Dr. Shrock was a director of Mind-Body Medicine for 40 cancer centers. He found that his patients lived much longer than those receiving only conventional medical care.
It was not his programs or teachings that made the difference, but the care his patients felt from him.
I wonder what would have happened if his patients learned how to love themselves unconditionally.
Dr. Shrock defines love as an all pervasive energy that flows through everything. Connecting emotionally and spiritually is the essence of life and health.
He explains that love is oneness. On a subatomic level, we are all connected. When you experience it, you are resonating with the essence of the universe and who you are. The quantum field flows freely and health is the result. You yourself are source energy.
When you love yourself and accept it from others, you naturally attract healthier relationships, healing, and blessings from the universe.
Very few people are taught this as children or let alone at all. So, now is your chance to integrate this knowledge.
To make things easier for you I have created a video with an exercise on How to Transmute Emotions that Stop You from Healing.
In the video you learned how to transmute negative emotions into healthy emotions. Doing so allows for more unconditional love to flow through you for better and even optimal health
Have questions or comments, write them below.
If you would like to work together to go deeper into transmuting negative emotions into healthy ones sign up for a Distance Healing Session with me.
Wow! Adam I find this empowering...I got chills when I said, "I transmute all hatred in AND AROUND me. Gave me goosebumps, and a clearer idea of what I'm working with. Also the transmitting of fear into prudence is starling to me, and life giving. Thanks. I'll continue to work with this. Deep appreciation for your clarity and wisdom.
January 11, 2017 at 12:15 PM
dear Adam, Pretty quick but good. something I 'know' about but have been away from for awhile. I needed it and it is nice to do. thanks. Marnie
Have you ever noticed how good you feel when you spend time in nature? If you do not know what I am talking about, it is time to get out into nature.
Nature is in a constant state of UNCONDITIONAL LOVE and it gives without expecting anything in return. Unconditional love is what all the great sages and healers like: Jesus, Buddha, and even Mother Theresa embraced.
We have a lot to learn from nature.
Albert Einstein understood it when he said, “Look deep into nature and then you will understand everything better.”
I have noticed, in general, people who spend little time in nature have more health issues. Is there a connection? Personally, I believe there is and you might think so after reading the scientific health benefits below.
First, I would like to share with you how nature has favourably impacted my life.
I find time spent in nature helps return me to who I am….my natural, balanced state…. I believe nature does this for everyone.
It happens because being in nature, naturally, aligns you with the healing vibration of unconditional love. When in a state of unconditional love, your stress melts away and your body can heal much faster.
You breathe in more oxygen, as well as, therapeutic scents of trees and plants.
8 Things Nature Has Taught Me
Slow down and enjoy the moment
The famous Chinese philosopher, Lao Tzu said it well, “Nature does not hurry, yet everything is accomplished.
I like to walk in nature every morning before I start my day. Also if I have had a particularly stressful day, I like to go into nature as it is naturally therapeutic. I have also found my intuition has been enhanced by spending time in nature.
For years, I have been intuitively guided to daily spend time in nature in order to balance myself and improve my health.
And guess what, science has done several studies that prove this is exactly what is happening.
Scientific Health Benefits of Nature
Improved short-term memory
Restored mental energy
Sharper thinking and creativity
Immune system boost
Improved mental health
Reduced risk of early death
If you are struggling with any health issues, I challenge you to daily spend time in nature and see how much your health improves.
All health issues are a sign the body is out of balance and not in its natural state.
Positive Improvement of Health Issues With Time Spent In Nature
Inflammatory bowel disease
Depression & anxiety
ADHD & ADD
If you want to enhance your health… get out into nature. Its therapeutic benefits are FREE!
I would love to hear any comments you have about nature. Share them below in the comment section.
* Click here to read scientific studies done on people in nature.
I sense you have something inside you that you need to let go of and your body is telling you this by the symptoms you are experiencing with your fingers. Say the affirmation, "I let of all the toxins inside of me that are affecting my fingers and hands." Say this everyday, when you are outside in nature. From there, ask yourself, "Is there anything I need to do to remove the toxins?" Listen and feel for a response.
December 15, 2016 at 8:00 AM
Good day Adam thanks for sharing. My life is spent outside either walking my dog, or riding my bike. I don't feel right if I haven't been outside at least once a day. Oh gardening as well. However, for some reason I have this arthritis going on in my fingers and not sure why. If I wasn't seeing it first hand I would never think I wasn't healthy. I feel healthy, and didn't feel unhealthy prior to this starting. Does getting your fingers cold do this. It's discouraging when I see it going on in my fingers and like I said I wouldn't even think I was unhealthy if I couldn't see it. Thanks and yes I do believe we all should be in nature. Intuitive readings come to me the min. I go outside for a walk. Blessings Barb
Your ability to be healthy is greatly dependent on how well you adapt. This is because when you are adaptable and exposed to different stressors you have an easier time moving through them without being taken out by stress.
Let’s face it, STRESS is unavoidable. You never know when it will show up, the best thing I have found that can be done is have a preventative strategy and adapt to it when it does show up.
How Does Stress Effect Your Health?
Stress can be the # 1 cause of health problems because it drains your energy and makes you more vulnerable to make poor choices, which can translate to your physical body’s intelligence lowering.
Depending on the amount of energy you invest into the stressors, your body can have trouble coping and regulating autonomic functions like immunity, repairing itself, digesting food, circulating blood, breathing, balancing hormones and even regulating your sleep cycle.
There are several health issues linked to stress:
High blood pressure
Diabetes type 2
Headaches & migraines
Gastrointestinal disorders like chronic heartburn & irritable bowel syndrome (IBS)
Brain lesions (which are linked to Alzheimer's disease)
To prevent and heal from health issues you have to change and be adaptable. I have found that I am much more adaptable when I am in a loving mind set.
Be Adaptable to Prevent and Heal from Health Issues
Your mental state is essential. When stress shows up in your life make sure you view and approach it with a solution oriented mindset.
Be aware that there is a stress, but put your attention on how to solve it rather than the problem itself.
To prevent and heal from health issues it is important to focus on unconditional love. If you don’t know what unconditional love is, let me tell you. Unconditional love is loving someone, something, even yourself despite who or what they are, their beliefs, actions, feelings, etc.
I know it can be challenging to love yourself and some people because you may feel they don’t deserve it, they are mean, they have done bad things, maybe even killed people. But how do you expect you or that person to change if they only receive negative feelings, thoughts, or actions towards them.
I have found to BE Unconditional Love, the first step is to develop Self-Love.
Watch the video below, I explain a simple technique called Self-Love Supercharger: 9 Steps to Developing Self-Love.
It is a great exercise to do every day in the morning or when you are feeling out of balance to bring you back to a state of balance.
Self-Love Supercharger: 9 Steps to Develop Self-Love
Close your eyes and put your awareness on your heart.
While focusing on your heart pay attention to what it tells you.
Any feelings or thoughts that come up, which are not healthy or balanced feeling, let them go. To let them go, say, “I let this go.”
After your heart feels clear and balanced, say, “I love myself unconditionally.”
Allow in new healthy energy to fill you up. To help with this say, I am open to allowing new healthy energy into my life.”
Integrate this new healthy energy. To do this say, I integrate the new healthy energy in my life.
Visualize your heart being bright pink and take 7 deep breaths imagining your heart filling with pink energy and it getting bigger and expanding outward as far as you can imagine. (You can do more that 7 breaths if you want.)
Place your palms over your heart and take 9 deep breaths with a smile on your face.
Laugh (even if it is fake).
If you want to work with me one on one to develop your Self-Love, you can do so by signing up for a Distance Healing Session