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Stop Falling into Unhappiness by doing this…

I recently discovered a great technique from Mo Gawdat on how to get into a state of happiness within 7 seconds.  I’ve been using it with clients with great results in my Distance Healing Sessions.

 

Before I tell you the technique, I will define happiness and unhappiness.

 

Happiness occurs when life meets or beats your expectations of an experience or event. 

 

For example, is you go out for dinner and the meal you have is as good as you expected it to be or better.

 

Whereas Unhappiness occurs when an experience or event doesn’t meet your expectations. 

 

An example of unhappiness: you go out for dinner and the meal is worse that you expected.

 

The common denominator with happiness and unhappiness are thoughts.

 

80% of unhappiness is due to negative thoughts.

 

Consider when you feel unhappy as a survival mechanism and a signal to take specific actions if you want to return to happiness. 

 

The first thing to do is acknowledge you feel unhappy. 

 

The second thing is: What is the trigger? 

 

If it’s a situation in the world like a flood or war on the other side of the world.  Has your life changed at all from it?

 

If not, can you accept it?  And can you do anything about it? 

 

Ask yourself the questions: “What can I do about it, how can I make the world a better place from this situation that triggered my unhappiness or how can I become stronger from the situation?” 

 

These questions take you out the of emotional and stressful thoughts (feeling helpless/hopeless) into acceptance and or action thoughts.

 

When you discover the trigger of your unhappiness, ask yourself whether the thought is true or false? 

 

I work with many people that suffer from depression and anxiety.  Many of their feelings are the result of believing a lie that was either told to them when they were young, or they told themselves from a negative experience they had.

 

Have you ever been bullied by someone that resulted in you not feeling good about yourself and unloved.

 

If you continued to tell yourself the lie that you are not good enough and unloved it results in feeling more stressed and symptoms of chronic stress.

 

Chronic Stress Symptoms

  • Easily triggered
  • Emotional withdrawal
  • Suppressing yourself
  • Fearful of expressing yourself
  • Shame
  • Guilt
  • Decreased immunity
  • Chest tightness
  • Trouble letting go
  • Low energy
  • Sleeping problems and insomnia
  • Unfocused and cloudy thinking
  • Changes in appetite
  • Aches and pains
  • Increase in alcohol and drug use

Diseases associated with chronic stress are linked to other conditions, both psychological and physical. These include:

  • Hypertension, heart disease, obesity and metabolic syndrome, Type II diabetes, and arthritis
  • Addiction to alcohol, nicotine and/or prescription drugs, and behavioral-related such as addiction to the internet, food, or gambling
  • Mood disorders and anxiety disorders, which are common secondary diagnoses for people with chronic stress.

Hypertension, depression, addiction, and anxiety disorders are the conditions most related to chronic stress.

 

If you can relate to living in chronic stress, take the following steps to overcome it.

  • Acknowledge your unhappy (negative feelings).
  • Write out the thoughts you have that trigger your stress. 
  • Ask yourself are the thoughts true or false?  (FYI: all thoughts of not being good enough and unlovable are a lie.) If they are false let them go by taking 10 deep breaths. Close your eyes, focus on the center of your chest, and say to yourself, “I release any lies that I tell myself that are not serving me in my highest and greatest good.”  Notice how you feel when you say this.  

By saying this prayer, you are giving your soul and God permission to cleanse the lies from you. 

  • If it is True.  Ask yourself, “What can I do to fix it?”

This moves you into the problem-solving part of your brain and helps make you and the world a better place.

  • If you can’t do anything about it and things can’t change.  Like someone dying in a car accident or stuck in traffic.  Ask yourself, “Can I accept the situation or experience and make my life better despite the problem."

Make sure that you go to happy and useful thoughts. 

 

If your thoughts aren’t useful, tell your brain not to give you thoughts that aren’t helpful. 

 

On average it takes 21 days to remove negativity and change the brain.  So be patient and persistent.

 

By investing 5-10mins into improving your mindset every day and how you interpret stress you will spend much more time feeling happy than you ever had before.

 

If you find that you need additional help overcoming chronic stress, I will gladly help you via Distance Healing Sessions.

 

Click here for Distance Healing Sessions

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