The Connection Between Helplessness and Poor Health
Wednesday, February 14, 2024
“Past failure is not a predictor of your future success.”
What would your life look like if you forgave yourself from your past mistakes and weaknesses?
All change begins with being honest with yourself.
To be healthy you must have a healthy belief about it.
Have you ever thought, “I’m not healthy because I don’t deserve it.” Or “I am not healthy because my mother isn’t (or someone else you are related to).”
Thoughts like these, stem from shame and self-doubt resulting in feeling like a victim. This type of mentality takes away personal responsibility and power to heal. Leaving the person feeling helpless, hopeless and blaming others for their problems.
To have the power to heal you must first have more energy. Second you must take full responsibility for your health and positive transformation.
Look at any negative beliefs you have about health and flip them to healthy ones and embody those beliefs.
For example, if you flip the negative beliefs above to a positive one like “I am so happy and grateful I am healthy.”
Do your best to visualize and see that you’ve already achieved this and embody the feeling of it.
The more you do this the more your brain will believe it.
Your brain doesn’t know the difference if something has happened in real life or made up in your brain.
Every time you have strong feelings, your brain produces the chemicals in alignment with the feelings. For example, when you feel grateful your brain produces serotonin and dopamine and when you feel fear you produce adrenaline and cortisol.
Also, you will become aware ways of being and staying healthy that you didn’t notice before because your awareness was focused on negative beliefs and feelings about health.
It’s important to consciously focus on what you want each day first thing in the morning to set your intentions for the day.
“The greatest gift you can give to the world is being the healthiest version of yourself.”
Self-doubt is not a signal to stop. Doubt is a signal to learn.
If you are not growing, you die or at least a part of you does. Hence, if you’ve ever done the same thing day in and day out you feel bored, uninspired, and often drained.
The secret to happiness is progress. People feel alive when they are growing.
But it can be scary. The fastest way for you to break free of your comfort zone is by working with a person or people that have done what you want to achieve.
If you don’t have goals, life will give you problems to help you create goals.
For example, if you are struggling with chronic digestive problems. Now your goal is to get rid of (heal) those digestive problems.
However, to truly heal from any health problem you have to change who you are to prevent the symptoms from returning.
Find a role model no matter your age. Do what they are doing so you can be the greatest version of yourself.
Find someone that is really good at what you want and train with them.
Commit to what you want to learn each year.
To do this you will have to conquer any fears of not having enough time and money.
“The opportunity needs to be bigger than your fear.”
Have you ever wanted to do something to improve your health, but FEAR arose and stopped you from acting?
You’re not alone.
Fear is one of the top five reasons why people don’t act. Why people procrastinate and why people give up on their goals and dreams.
Fear shows up when we think about and step into the unknown; something new that we’ve never done before.
It doesn’t necessarily mean that it’s bad fear. It’s just the body's response to something new because we all have a set point in our lives, i.e., our comfort zone.
However, we can get addicted to the emotional response we get from our comfort zone even if parts of that comfort zone are unhealthy.
We’ve all been there in some way or maybe you are there right now.
I used to be addicted drinking alcohol. I began drinking to help feel more relaxed in a social setting, but soon it became something I would reach for at the end of my day.
It was something I leaned on to help me unwind. Without it, I felt more stressed, slight brain fog, and less energy. This is because my body was constantly processing the toxins produced by alcohol.
As time went on I found that I was developing more toxicity symptoms and it was having a negative impact on my health.
It was very hard to stop because I feared that I wouldn't be able to socialize as well. This of course was something I had made up in my head and was my way of trying to fool myself into continuing to drink.
It took me deciding that my health, life, and work were far more important than potentially feeling awkward socially.
Strong WHY is Essential for OVERCOMING FEAR
Every single person who overcomes adversity or conquers a fear has a WHY – a reason that motivates them to act in the first place.
The thing is, you have more control than you think you do when it comes to finding reasons that motivate you to push past your fear.
You may not have the willpower or the drive to decide to overcome your fear, but you can intentionally seek out inspiration, accountability, and better opportunities to achieve your goal.
If you have trouble connecting with your WHY or finding the motivation to follow through, it can be helpful to start by putting some safeguards in place.
6 Principles of Safeguarding
1. Empowerment – Find mentors, books, information that empower you to achieve your health goals. Example, visual every morning each that you’ve accomplished your health goal.
2. Prevention – Research and do the things that help prevent poor health. This includes eating well, regular exercise, meditation and destressing activities like Qi Gong, Yoga, etc.
3. Protection – avoid things that drain your energy like negative thinking, focusing on things that you don’t have any control over, spending time with negative people, watching and listening to the news.
4. Proportionality – You are a unique individual. Therefore, your needs, desires, and situation is different from everyone else’s. Rather than comparing yourself to others, focus on making small improvements every day towards your health goal.
5. Partnerships – Seek out support for achieving your health goals. You don’t have to do it alone. Know that God (Divine, Universe, etc.) supports you. So, thank God every day for that support. Also reach out and connect with other for support via in person, by phone and or online.
6. Accountability – Hold yourself accountable to your health goals by reminding yourself WHY you are doing it every day. Attach a big purpose to it. Like when you achieve your health goal you will go on a trip to somewhere you’ve always wanted to go. Or do it so you can be more present with your family.
Whatever it is it should be something that excites you.
Another part about accountability is ask a friend or family member to check in with you daily/weekly to hold you accountable.
To achieve your health goals (any goal actually) you must change who you are. You must become someone different, someone better than who you currently are.
Comment below if fear gets in the way of you achieving your health goals or other important goals?
Third Most Common Reason that Stop People from Investing Into their Health
Friday, February 2, 2024
Have you ever been really excited about an idea that could improve your health?
Then you go tell someone like your spouse, a close friend or someone you really care about and they try to convince you out of it and are unsupportive?
Your spouse (if you have one) typically has the most influence over your decision making if you let them.
The biggest reason why your spouse or someone tries to stop you from doing something to improve your health (or other areas of your life) is because they don’t fully understand how it’s going to change you for the better.
They’re often more concerned about how your decision is going to have a negative impact on them, based on a past experience.
It could be that you’ve done something in the past and you didn’t get the desired results, the cost or time away could bother them.
If you find yourself facing this obstacle it's important for you to paint a clear picture to help them understand how it’s going to benefit them and you.
Before speaking to your spouse write out want you are going to say and visualize it going well with positive feelings.
It good to let them know how it will make you feel doing the thing you have discovered.
Ask them how they feel about you doing it.
What do they want or don’t want from you to help ensure you follow through with your idea.
It’s good to find out what their resistance is to reassure them, that this decision will improve they’re life in the long-term as well.
These tips will go a long way to improve your health and your communication with your spouse, along with others that you care about.
Comment below if you have faced this obstacle and how you handled it.
Money is one of the top 5 Obstacles that people face in achieving their goals.
Have you ever wanted something to improve your health or even something outside of health and thought and or said, “I can’t afford that?”
Where does that thought come from?
It comes from a place of lack and if you are honest with yourself, living in lack sucks.
Living from lack is a learned behaviour and then when practiced enough times becomes a habit and pattern.
Think of money as an energy. If you consider money dirty, the root of all evil, are envious, cynical, or bitter towards people with money, see it as something only rich people have, blame your upbringing or hard times you been through, scared you will never have enough, all you are doing is pushing the energy of money away from you and it’s no wonder it can be a struggle.
However, if you learn to see abundance everywhere, think and speak about money in a peaceful, excited and a loving way, it will flow easier to you, and you will have more of it. You will take better care of it learn how to grow it rather than just spend it.
This takes practice though. If you are someone that has thought about money in negative and lacking way for a long time, you will need to put daily conscious actions into thinking and feeling about money in a positive way.
Suggestions I have for you to think and feel good about money are:
Affirming, “I am so happy and grateful that money flows easily to me.” Visualize with your eyes closed celebrating that money is coming to you in a constant, ever-growing stream.
At first you may notice negative feelings, thoughts and doubts show up. This is because you are making your unconscious negative thoughts and feelings of money conscious. This is why you need to practice healthy thinking and feeling about money every day to remove all the negativity and replace it with love, gratitude, and peace.
Write a love letter to money.
Tell it how grateful you are to have it in your life and all the wonderful thing you want to do with it.
Make a list of 50 reasons of how resourceful you can be.
This list may include knowing people that have a lot of money and asking them for a loan to help pay for a treatment you really need to improve your health.
You also might realize there are certain things you can do to create more money in your life. Like pick up a side job.
It might help you to realize that there is so much free information online and other place that can teach you how to create more wealth in your life. The possibilities are endless.
However, it all has to begin by changing your state of being, beliefs and feelings about money.
Listen to and or spend time with wealthy people.
This will help you to think like a wealthy person.
Did you know that 1 in 10 Americans are millionaires and 89% are first generation. Meaning they created it from their thoughts, feelings, and actions.
If they can, so you can you.
Share your comments below if you have any effective ways of creating a healthy mindset about money and how it’s changed your life.
In this blog I’m going to tell you how to overcome the Obstacle of Time when it's interfering with your health.
Not having enough time is one of the most common excuses people use as their reason for not being healthy.
I get it. I've used the excuse of time many times. But I realized that it wasn't helping me. It was only holding me back.
Have you ever said:
I don’t have enough time to exercise.
I don’t have enough time to meditate.
I don’t have enough time to prepare healthy meals.
I don’t have enough time to go see a practitioner that will help me.
The real reason behind it if you use time as an excuse is you are not making the time. And it likely you just haven’t developed the skillof how to best utilize your time.
What if you had massive success doing what you need to do to achieve your health goals. Would you make the time then?
If you feel short on time for health or want to make more time to create better health for yourself start with looking at where you could be wasting your time.
How much time do you spend watching TV per day, scrolling social media, or some other form of entertainment that only gives you short term happiness. But doesn’t move you any closer to your health goals?
The US average daily stats for watching TV, social media, gaming and browsing websites are:
TV – 3hr 16min
Social Media – 1hr 27mins
Gaming – 1hr 46mins
Browsing Websites – 51mins
That’s over 7hrs per day if someone is doing all these things. Over 49hrs per week, over 196hrs per month and over 2352hrs per year.
But say you are only consuming 1hr per day. That’s 7hrs per week, 28hrs per month and 336hr per year.
How different would your health be if you invested that time into your health (or another important goal)?
Your time is more valuable than money.
If you were offered $100million dollars, but you would have to die tomorrow would you take the money or would you want to live longer?
Leave a comment below with your answer. But I’m guessing you would choose to live longer.
To value time, you must change your mindset of it.
It can be difficult at first if this is a new perspective for you.
To help, wake up each day and remind yourself, “I’m going to make the most of this day and my time.”
To help with that write out WHY TIME is so valuable to you.
Write out at the beginning of each week what are 1-2 most important things you want to do each day for your health and make sure you do those things within the first 2hrs upon waking.
Once you develop the habit of this you will see how beneficial this is for you and the changes that come along with it.
Comment below if you know what 1-2 of the most important things are for your health goals.
If you would like to learn more about how to better use your time to achieve your goals I recommend reading or listening to the audio book The 4-Hour Workweekby Tim Ferris. It will help you develop the skills you need to better utilize your time and more.
5 Obstacles That You May Face When Pursuing Health Goals
Sunday, January 14, 2024
Do you have a big health goal you want to achieve?
But feel there is something getting in your way of achieving it?
You are not alone.
As a teenager I wanted to learn how to heal myself because I had several symptoms that made me feel awful.
Little did I know that this goal started shifting my life in a direction that I could have never imagined.
Something you are likely aware of though, when you set goals, obstacles begin showing up because you start moving out of your comfort zone into the unknown.
I’ve learned that there are 5 Big Obstacles you want to be aware of, so you can deal with them if they arise.
Knowing what the obstacles are and how to deal with them makes it much easier to overcome them. Then you don’t get stuck or lose faith in yourself and give up on your health goals.
Look at obstacles as an opportunity for growth. On the other side of them is the thing you really want.
5 Big Obstacles that show up when pursuing your goals:
Time – “Believing you don’t have enough time to do the thing you want.”
Money – “Believing you don’t have enough money to purchase what you need.”
Spouse – “My spouse won’t allow me or doesn’t support me going after goal.”
Fear – shows up when you view your life from a place of lack, victimhood, doubt and or failure.
Shame and Self-Doubt – this is signaling that past failures are controlling your reality.
When I first wanted to go to Chinese Medicine College to become a TCM doctor my girlfriend at the time told me if you do that, I will break-up with you.
She thought it was weird and gross and I allowed her opinion to influence me out of going at the time. So, instead I signed up at the local community college to pursue a degree in Environmental Technologies.
However, 1 month later we broke up. I was already signed up for the Environmental program, but something felt off the whole time.
When I began the program, I started getting a strong voice in my head saying, “YOU NEED TO GO TO CHINESE MEDICINE SCHOOL.”
I tried to ignore the voice, but it kept getting louder and louder, until finally, after being in the program for just 4 days I told myself, “Enough, I will go to Chinese Medicine School!”
That day, I called the Chinese Medicine College and asked them if they had space for me.
I was put through to the dean and he said “Yes, we have room for you. Come in on Monday to start."
In that moment a huge weight lifted off me.
The first day I started everything felt right. I knew I was in the right place, and it was one of the best choices I made for myself.
From making that one choice it opened so many more doorways for me to improving my health, overcoming many symptoms, along with helping people all over the world.
None of this would have happened if I didn’t take the first step. Plus, I met Keri at Chinese Medicine College.
Next week I’m going to release the info on how to work through the 5 Big Obstacles, so you can achieve your health goals easier. Stay tuned…
“I believe the greatest gift you can give your family and the world is a healthy you.”
~ Joyce Meyer
2024 is here and it's perfect time of year to connect with your health goals and get really clear on what you need to do to achieve them.
It’s important to have goals because then you know where you are aiming towards. Don’t hold back or lower your goals to suit others.
Scientifically, its been proven that people with big goals and that go after them achieve more in life.
The method for effective goal setting:
Identify realistic and specific goals.
Brainstorm actionable objectives. What actions do you need to take to achieve your goals?
Break down your goals into smaller steps. What do you need to do on a daily basis?
Identify possible obstacles. What has stopped you in the past? 5 biggest excuses people use for not achieving their goals are “I don’t have enough Time”, “I don’t have enough Money”, Spouse, Fear, Self-doubt (low confidence) & Shame.
Schedule a timeframe.
Post your goals in areas of your home, car and on your phone screen to remind yourself of them.
Questions For Goal Setting:
1. What are your health goals?
2. What do you need in your life to achieve your goal? What actions do you need to be doing to achieve your goal? A big part of achieving goals is your daily habits. Healthy daily habits include exercise, eating well, listening to healthy people, meditation, and practicing gratitude.
3.What do you believe has stopped you from having your goal already? List any Obstacles you face.
4. What do you need to let go of?
5. What would your life look like if you didn’t have any health issues?
6. How would you feel if you were healthy?
7.What have you done to be healthy like this?
8.If you could have the life you want, what does it look like? Be detailed.
9.Describe your future self. How does your future life look, feel, think? How do you invoke this life?
Review your goals often. Revaluate them, redefine them, and Re-engage them.
Have you ever worried about getting together with family over the holidays because one or more members has a tendency to make you feel uncomfortable? And do you wish these people could just be nicer and more compassionate?
Me too. I used to struggle with judging people before getting together due to some stressful interactions in the past. As a result, this made me even more stressed and worried something bad might happen again.
That all changed years ago when I discovered a simple Energy Healing Technique that helped me let go of old pain and heal those relationships.
Watch Video to discover how to Heal your Relationships