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Can Self-Love actually be enough to power intentional healing of the body?  

Most people think that love requires other people, but even self-love has the power to move mountains. Love really does have the power to heal us from the inside out. In fact, love has been proven to heal wounds at rapid paces. 

So, what exactly is Self-Love??? 

How can we know if we are truly loving ourselves unconditionally? 

This has taken me a lot of thought. 

When I was hard on myself and especially my body, my body internalized that self-judgement with chronic body wide pain. 

My body ached and burned for me to pay attention to it and love it just the way it was. It took me a lot of time to learn how to love myself. I think I am still mastering it and it may end up being my personal soul work in this life. 

Self-love has taught me that I am loving to myself when….. 

• I take the time to slow down in my life. When I allow for more flow and ease and give up the stress of trying to control situations. 
• Self-love to me has been the ability to look inward and ask myself questions while listening for my soul's answers. Listening to my intuition, my soul’s whispers have been my greatest ally. 
• Self-love has been revelling in the perfection that I truly am. Perfect right now. Every body part, every thought, every curve, every pound.
• Self-love is trusting my instincts and saying no when I need to rest or relax. This has not been easy for me. As an empath, I want to heal the world. Saying no has been an art for me. 
• Self-love has been about being kind and patient with myself and really accepting myself as a perfect creation of god/creator/spirit. 
• Self-love is about letting go of my judgements towards myself. I have learned that I am my worst critic. Quieting my inner critic with love and respect has been a vital part of my daily practice. It is sort of like brain gym for my negative Nancy. Correcting her behaviour when I notice her coming to visit. 
• Self-love is embracing my sensitivity. I tend to be a little emotional at times and can easily cry. Embracing this sensitivity has been so freeing for me. I have learned that showing my emotions in all situations has deepened my relationships with people and myself. 
• Self-love has been letting go of my past mistakes and forgiving myself. Thanking my soul for the knowledge and learning that came with it. After all, my biggest challenges have been my greatest teacher.  
• Self-love has been honouring my truth even when it is hard. Even when others disagree. I am still working on this one.  
• Self-love is about letting go of relationships and things that no longer align with my highest and best interest. 

It has also been about taking myself on dates, buying myself flowers and being my very best friend. It is about knowing that I deserve the best and giving myself permission to give that best to myself. I love to treat myself to the very best when I can. 

We can also lean into loving our partners/spouses/friends and even animal companions more. Making time for hugs and cuddles. Love of all kinds releases lovely hormones like dopamine and oxytocin. They relax the stress response and really make the body ripe for miracles. 

When we feel a lack of self-love, love and connection, we are more susceptible to imbalances in the body. Our bodies are so wise. The body shifts as our frequencies shift.

When we are out of cinq with love we can be more susceptible to...

• Chronic inflammation
• Immune system imbalances
• Elevated blood pressure
• Increased cortisol levels
• Pain
• Fatigue
• Depression
• Anxiety
• Increased reactivity to stress

This is really because lack of love can activate our stress response. 

When we feel love in our hearts we….

• Have more flexibility
• Immune systems are balanced
• Pain is less
• Your Heart beats stronger
• Hormones are better balanced
• Feel happy 
• Sleep deeper
• Blood sugars are more stable. 
• Exercise more, and our blood chemistry physically changes

SELF LOVE 

For me, it has been about learning to say no, taking time for myself and really turning my attention to self-care. 

Self-love has been about being kind to myself and loving every curve and dimple on my body. It has been about being my biggest fan, and my very best friend. 

It has been about being patient with myself and knowing that there is a great timing for everything. 

It has also been about self-forgiveness and even permission to let out the parts of myself that are not all that pretty. 

Self-love has been my greatest healing journey. 

Do you practice self-love? 

I would love to hear about it.  Leave your comments below.

Keri Fulmore
Medical Intuitive & Functional Medicine Practitioner

This is something I have been doing for many years and I feel that it has been a huge factor in my development and nourishing of my healing abilities, along with the maintenance of my own health.

What I am referring to is Meditating with a Tree. 

You know that feeling when you go for a walk or spend time in a forest; how relaxed and balanced you feel during and after.

That is because you are taking in some of the healing energies available to you.  So, what if you took the time to place your hands on a healthy tree and allowed yourself to feel the energy that it wants to share with you on an even deeper level?

This is what I do.  More specifically, I ask if the tree has a message for me, if it has a healing for me and if it has anything it wants to share with me.

You see trees have spirits too, they are alive, and they communicate through frequency.  Once you attune to the frequency you can understand their language. But that is for another conversation. 

If you want to increase your life force, as in help your body be and feel healthier, heal faster from illnesses and injuries, become more adaptable to stress, increase your intuition and simple become more resilient I recommend doing this simple of act of Meditating with a Tree.

The act of Meditating with Trees has a long history and there are many great people throughout history that proclaimed they gained healing power and enlightenment via meditating with a tree.

Two specific people are Buddha and Jesus Christ. 

How I Meditate with a TREE 

The way I meditate with a tree is I look for a strong healthy tree somewhere where I will not be disturbed (this can even be in your own yard).  I stand in front of it placing my hands on the trunk in a comfortable location with my eyes closed.  I breath naturally and allow myself to feel the energy of the tree. 

The more you do this the more sensitive you become to the subtle energy of the tree. 

If you have never done this before I recommend using the same tree daily to develop a relationship with it.  You will be amazed that overtime you will feel the love from that tree before you even touch it because it will be projecting to you when you are close by and even from further distances. 

To help deepen your relationship with the tree ask it questions like the ones I wrote above.  Along with asking it, “is there anything I can do for you?”  Trees love it when you give back to them.  This can be as simple of projecting love to them or visualizing them healthy. 

If you are hearing for the first time, it might sound strange.  But, think about it, you have nothing to lose.  If anything, you have much to gain. 

I’d love to hear from you.  Let me know if you have ever meditated with a tree and what your experience was like?

As a child and teenager, I suffered from severe irritability.  I felt like a ticking time bomb ready to go off if someone said or did something to trigger me.  It was rare if I didn’t wake up irritated and frustrated.

But these intense feelings I felt were the result of what was going on inside of me, creating perpetual stress.    

On an unconscious level I was attached to anger, frustration, fear and sadness to many people without realizing it.   

This was because at different points in my past I felt these people had hurt me through their words and actions. 

Though it was me that was still holding onto those painful experiences, because I didn’t know how to process them. 

Those experiences were kind of like undigested food rotting in my stomach, creating all kinds of different problems.

Those unprocessed negative experiences were telling my central nervous system (CNS) on an unconscious level to be in a state of fight or flight all the time, causing me to feel terrible.  

This made it very hard for me to relax and feel comfortable with myself and others. 

Physically, this affected my sleep, digestion and caused my body to feel tense and tight all the time.

At the time, I had no idea that I was still being affected from past experiences until I did this….

Quieted my mind and listened through meditation. 

When I first began meditating at age 20yrs old, I had a flood of negative feelings, thoughts and images arise to my consciousness.  It was quite scary and intimidating at first.  

But, I quickly learned an EXERCISE (listen to it below) that was centred around focusing on loving myself and other people. 

This powerful exercise helped me process the painful experiences, so I could finally overcome the pain they were causing me. 

It helped me to realize that I needed to forgive the people that hurt me and send love to them (including myself). 

All the negative feelings I was creating on a day to day basis were creating so much tension in my body that they were continually creating a toxic state for myself. 

As a result the physical, mental and emotional symptoms quickly resolved.

Clearing the stress in my mind also enhanced my intuition because it was no longer being blocked by stress and negativity.

When I decided to stop and observe, rather than reacted to every thought and feeling I experienced, it allowed me to create change.

Looking back at it now I find it amazing how simple it was to process the old emotional pain when I decided to let love in and let go. 

If you are anything like I was, the following Loving Kindness Exercise may be one of the most important things you do for your healing and moving forward with your life.    

Greatness doesn’t happen overnight, it’s created through regular consistent investment of your time and energy. 

You’re already putting your energy into things, why not direct your time and energy into things that help you to thrive.

Below I share 5 things I have been doing to help me increase my health and happiness and I know you will benefit from them too!

5 Things to Make 2019 Great

1. Exercise for 1hr daily. 

If you want to take your health to the next level exercise is the way to do it.  I have been working out, lifting weights and swimming 3-4 days per week for 2 months.  In that short amount of time I have built up more muscle mass, am physically stronger, improved my endurance and energy level, feel less stressed, and haven’t gotten a sick (in the most notorious time of year to get sick).  

On top of all that, I walk 1-2 hrs per day with my dogs.

There are so many benefits to exercise like:

• Stronger lungs = more oxygen to your muscles and brain = more energy.
• Protection from flus and colds.  Exercise increases immunoglobulins, which are proteins that help bolster your immune system and ward off infection.
• Mental calmness - Mood-enhancing chemicals, like serotonin, dopamine, and norepinephrine, flood your brain for a couple of hours post-exercise and for up to a day if you've competed in an endurance event, like a marathon. Stress? What stress?
• Healthy weight - You're blasting calories, even at rest. "For every 100 calories you burn during your workout, you can expect to burn 15 calories after," Example, If you went on a three-mile run, you would torch about 300 calories, which could mean zapping an extra 45 later.
• Healthy Heart – After every sweat session you lower your blood pressure for up to 16hrs.
• Risk of diabetes goes down - The more you work out, the greater your sensitivity to insulin. That, in turn, lowers your blood sugar levels, reducing your risk of type 2 diabetes.
• Physically stronger – regular exercise strengthens your muscles, bones and organs, helping to prevent weakness as you age.
• Anti-aging – Fitness buffs have more telomeres. The DNA that bookends our chromosomes and protects them from damage, which can slow the aging process, studies show.
• Melt away fat – After 4 weeks of regular exercise, your body ditches flab and gains muscle.  Overweight people who took part in a four-week program of moderate aerobic exercise in an Australian study reduced ab fat by 12%.  Wow, that’s fantastic!

2. Love yourself every day!

I have been focusing on loving myself unconditionally for the last 6yrs.

The benefits I have gained from this are:

• Less stress
• Attracted more friends into my life
• Developed healthier relationship with family and friends.
• Heal faster physically
• Feel more optimistic about life.

The trick to loving yourself is to tell yourself, “I love myself unconditionally,” and allow yourself to feel the how you react to that statement.

Allow yourself to fully embrace the feelings created by loving yourself unconditionally.

The next thing, I recommend you do is ask yourself, “What do I want to do today that will help me love myself even more?”

Ask yourself this question in a quiet & calm place and listen to the answer your body gives back to you.

3. Set a goal of something you really want to do for yourself? 

This could be a trip, get into better shape and health, learn a new skill or make a new friend.  

This is not limited to one goal, set as many as you would like, but remember to take action to make them happen.

4. Go somewhere you have never been before.

This helps you get out of routine, your comfort zone and realize there’s more to life than what is going on in your world.

I know when I go somewhere I haven’t been before I experience a lot of unexpected happiness. This is due to growing and learning new things, which stimulates serotonin production.

5. Meditate on a daily basis.

Meditation is amazing at showing you where you could be limiting yourself.  Limits create stagnation and stagnation is the root of all imbalances: mental, emotional, spiritual and physical.

Therefore, by meditating you have the ability to make the unconscious conscious and see how you are affecting yourself and make the changes needed to live a fulfilling life.

To help align with the happier and healthier version of yourself I have created the Meditation Removing Restrictions for you.

Have you ever wondered if SELF HEALING was possible for YOU?  

Perhaps you have read stories of miraculous healings in other people.  

I too wondered the same thing when my life turned upside down.  I was doing great.  I was eating all the right foods, exercising, loving my children, had a loving husband, but I learned that wasn't enough. 

One day suddenly out of nowhere I found myself in the 'dark night of the soul', or a very tomultuous health storm.  I was crippled with head to toe pain, burning, shaking, tremors and crippled posture.  I could barely get out of bed, let alone take care of my kids.  Doctor's told me I was normal and there was nothing wrong with me.  I had lost all hope.  

I didn't believe healing could happen to me, that is until I decided to take my power back.  Until I decided to take healing into my own hands.  

Find out what I did to heal my body in video below......  and what you can do to!

You are more powerful than you could ever imagine and if I can do it, so can you!

Self Healing Video

Don’t let negative emotions stop you from healing. 

Did you know that negative emotions like anger, fear and hatred work against you if you are trying to heal?

They stop you from healing because they inhibit you from feeling love and LOVE HEALS.

Dr. Bernie Siegel explains the connection between love and health by saying that when you do not love your life your body suffers.  It’s the ‘good girl’ who gets breast cancer.  She’s the one who takes care of others needs and desires at the expense of her own.

The 'good girl' may see love as conforming.  Of course, there are times that conforming is in your best interest. But conforming for love's sake stifles creativity and makes it impossible to live an authentic life. This creates stress and chronic stress leads to illness.

People often feel this stress on Monday - the most common day for suicide, heart attacks and illness.

Dean Shrock, PhD, author of “Why Love Heals” discovered scientific proof that love heals.  Dr. Shrock was a director of Mind-Body Medicine for 40 cancer centers.  He found that his patients lived much longer than those receiving only conventional medical care.

It was not his programs or teachings that made the difference, but the care his patients felt from him.

I wonder what would have happened if his patients learned how to love themselves unconditionally.

Dr. Shrock defines love as an all pervasive energy that flows through everything.  Connecting emotionally and spiritually is the essence of life and health.

He explains that love is oneness.  On a subatomic level, we are all connected. When you experience it, you are resonating with the essence of the universe and who you are. The quantum field flows freely and health is the result. You yourself are source energy.

When you love yourself and accept it from others, you naturally attract healthier relationships, healing, and blessings from the universe.

Very few people are taught this as children or let alone at all.  So, now is your chance to integrate this knowledge.

To make things easier for you I have created a video with an exercise on How to Transmute Emotions that Stop You from Healing.

Watch Video.

In the video you learned how to transmute negative emotions into healthy emotions.  Doing so allows for more unconditional love to flow through you for better and even optimal health

Have questions or comments, write them below.

If you would like to work together to go deeper into transmuting negative emotions into healthy ones sign up for a Distance Healing Session with me.

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Have you ever noticed how good you feel when you spend time in nature?  If you do not know what I am talking about, it is time to get out into nature.

Nature is in a constant state of UNCONDITIONAL LOVE and it gives without expecting anything in return.  Unconditional love is what all the great sages and healers like: Jesus, Buddha, and even Mother Theresa embraced.

We have a lot to learn from nature.

Albert Einstein understood it when he said, “Look deep into nature and then you will understand everything better.”

I have noticed, in general, people who spend little time in nature have more health issues.  Is there a connection?  Personally, I believe there is and you might think so after reading the scientific health benefits below.

First, I would like to share with you how nature has favourably impacted my life.

I find time spent in nature helps return me to who I am….my natural, balanced state…. I believe nature does this for everyone.

It happens because being in nature, naturally, aligns you with the healing vibration of unconditional love.  When in a state of unconditional love, your stress melts away and your body can heal much faster.

You breathe in more oxygen, as well as, therapeutic scents of trees and plants.

8 Things Nature Has Taught Me

1. Slow down and enjoy the moment
2. Unconditional love
3. Inner peace
4. Forgiveness
5. Adaptability
6. Energy Medicine
7. Herbal Medicine
8. Wild Food

The famous Chinese philosopher, Lao Tzu said it well, “Nature does not hurry, yet everything is accomplished.

I like to walk in nature every morning before I start my day.  Also if I have had a particularly stressful day, I like to go into nature as it is naturally therapeutic.  I have also found my intuition has been enhanced by spending time in nature.

For years, I have been intuitively guided to daily spend time in nature in order to balance myself and improve my health.

And guess what, science has done several studies that prove this is exactly what is happening.

Scientific Health Benefits of Nature

• Improved short-term memory
• Restored mental energy
• Stress relief
• Reduced inflammation
• Better vision
• Improved concentration
• Sharper thinking and creativity
• Anti-cancer effects
• Immune system boost
• Improved mental health
• Reduced risk of early death

If you are struggling with any health issues, I challenge you to daily spend time in nature and see how much your health improves.   

All health issues are a sign the body is out of balance and not in its natural state.

Positive Improvement of Health Issues With Time Spent In Nature

• Memory problems
• Mental fatigue
• Fatigue
• Autoimmune disorders
• Inflammatory bowel disease
• Depression & anxiety
• ADHD & ADD
• Cancer
• Hypertension
• Myopia (nearsightedness)

If you want to enhance your health… get out into nature.  Its therapeutic benefits are FREE!

I would love to hear any comments you have about nature.  Share them below in the comment section.

* Click here to read scientific studies done on people in nature. 

Your ability to be healthy is greatly dependent on how well you adapt.  This is because when you are adaptable and exposed to different stressors you have an easier time moving through them without being taken out by stress.

Let’s face it, STRESS is unavoidable.  You never know when it will show up, the best thing I have found that can be done is have a preventative strategy and adapt to it when it does show up.

How Does Stress Effect Your Health?

Stress can be the # 1 cause of health problems because it drains your energy and makes you more vulnerable to make poor choices, which can translate to your physical body’s intelligence lowering. 

Depending on the amount of energy you invest into the stressors, your body can have trouble coping and regulating autonomic functions like immunity, repairing itself, digesting food, circulating blood, breathing, balancing hormones and even regulating your sleep cycle.

There are several health issues linked to stress:

• High blood pressure
• Heart problems
• Asthma
• Obesity
• Diabetes type 2
• Headaches & migraines
• Depression
• Anxiety
• Gastrointestinal disorders like chronic heartburn & irritable bowel syndrome (IBS)
• Brain lesions (which are linked to Alzheimer's disease)
• Premature aging
• Premature death.

To prevent and heal from health issues you have to change and be adaptable.  I have found that I am much more adaptable when I am in a loving mind set.

Be Adaptable to Prevent and Heal from Health Issues

Your mental state is essential.  When stress shows up in your life make sure you view and approach it with a solution oriented mindset. 

Be aware that there is a stress, but put your attention on how to solve it rather than the problem itself. 

To prevent and heal from health issues it is important to focus on unconditional love.  If you don’t know what unconditional love is, let me tell you.  Unconditional love is loving someone, something, even yourself despite who or what they are, their beliefs, actions, feelings, etc. 

I know it can be challenging to love yourself and some people because you may feel they don’t deserve it, they are mean, they have done bad things, maybe even killed people.  But how do you expect you or that person to change if they only receive negative feelings, thoughts, or actions towards them. 

I have found to BE Unconditional Love, the first step is to develop Self-Love. 

Watch the video below, I explain a simple technique called Self-Love Supercharger: 9 Steps to Developing Self-Love.

It is a great exercise to do every day in the morning or when you are feeling out of balance to bring you back to a state of balance.

Self-Love Supercharger: 9 Steps to Develop Self-Love

1. Close your eyes and put your awareness on your heart.
2. While focusing on your heart pay attention to what it tells you.
3. Any feelings or thoughts that come up, which are not healthy or balanced feeling, let them go.  To let them go, say, “I let this go.”
4. After your heart feels clear and balanced, say, “I love myself unconditionally.”
5. Allow in new healthy energy to fill you up.  To help with this say, I am open to allowing new healthy energy into my life.”
6. Integrate this new healthy energy.  To do this say, I integrate the new healthy energy in my life.
7. Visualize your heart being bright pink and take 7 deep breaths imagining your heart filling with pink energy and it getting bigger and expanding outward as far as you can imagine.  (You can do more that 7 breaths if you want.)
8. Place your palms over your heart and take 9 deep breaths with a smile on your face.
9. Laugh (even if it is fake).   

If you want to work with me one on one to develop your Self-Love, you can do so by signing up for a Distance Healing Session